In our daily lives we all create a routine. Days for the most part are insignificant. As the saying goes, “a day went and another day comes“.
However, in our lives, there are certain days that stand out due to their special significance.
These days change the course of our lives, and are remembered for their uniqueness. One such day is when we meet our significant other and we commit to each other. It is a day with a world of significance, and a day that changes the world of two individuals and their families.
But as time passes, the feelings shared by the couple at that time and the dreams that came along with them, tend to evaporate.
The daily routine kicks in, each individual focuses on their work, on financial stressors, and then on becoming parents. All this plus other multiple factors, tend to interfere in the relationship of the couple. Each individual wonders where the dreams went, where the love and tenderness between them is and feelings of emptiness, loneliness, frustration, disappointment, anger, sadness, and anxiety could be experienced.
It is at this point, where we need to take a step back and be able to reevaluate what is happening. Couples get lost in the daily routine among all the stressors they have to face. Going into therapy means giving the couple a chance to reflect on what is happening.
Couples Therapy - Giving Your Marriage a Chance
Couples wonder if they still have a chance. The answer to that is that the chance always exists as long as a couple wants the chance.
By engaging in couples therapy (or marriage counseling), couples experience the opportunity of revisiting aspects of the other person they fell in love with. What did I fall in love with, where are those things now? Are the things I fell in love with still there and do I see them as qualities or for some reason they turned out to be an excess of some thing which now I feel as a negative?
Couples therapy is the place to be able to obtain different interpretations and understanding of what is happening between the two individuals. Work is done in order to make certain aspects better such as communication, sexuality, understanding each other‘s needs and expectations, and most importantly, to learn to love each other as the other person wants to be loved.
Love changes, but change doesn’t mean the love is lost. It means it gets stronger in its foundation but it might become weaker in other areas such as passion. These are just two examples of aspects that would be worked on in order to clarify the situation.
A relationship is like a business. It needs to be analyzed and restructured with time. Changes need to be made in order for it to continue being productive with the different aspects that are occurring in life. This is the chance that a couple would give to each other when in moments of difficulty. It is hard work but it opens the door for a change that might be rewarding for future years.
Don’t give up on the opportunity of making things better for yourself. Couples therapy is exactly that. Before you make any lifetime changing decisions, like the one you made the day you committed to your loved one, take the time to work on one of the most special things we all have: our relationship!
Get in touch with a couples therapist at Weston Family Psychology today.
